Reflection is a daunting and scary thing.  Reflecting on dating history can be a trauma inducing exercise.  Looking back on my past, past choices, past mistakes, past everything has made me  rethink what I once truly hoped and believed to be possible, or more so hoped to be possible – Soul Mates.  Yes, a word that conjures up happy endings and life long joy with that one special person.  Well, it’s around, I see people I suppose I would classify as soul mates.  People who seem to naturally fit with each other and seem to have found their better half.  Although, I know outside observers are not always privy to what happens behind closed doors, but nonetheless I see those happy couples.  What is often overlooked, are those who seem to continue to never find that.  Are we making a mistake but not looking hard enough, looking too hard, which way is just right?  Should you  take every chance at a date, a new match?  Should you just focus on anything else and it’ll just happen??  Well, what if, just what if, some of us are not made to have lasting love, a lasting partnership?  What if some of us must journey life on our own without someone making our heart skip a beat, making our pulse race, making us feel like anything is possible?  I pose these questions because when you are looking, every failed attempt, and every time you weren’t chosen just gets harder with each time it happens again.  It is less of a badge of courage, and more a feeling of what the hell is wrong with me?  If you stop looking, well, deep inside you’ve done it for a reason, so as you go along living your life, you’re still alone and it still has to hit hard every once in a while.  I suggest there are some, and these souls I propose are the Solo Souls.  Floating along at their own pace, living their life, never coming to find that someone special, no matter how many times they try to say to themselves there is someone out there.  Solo Souls aren’t bad, it’s not negative, it’s just some of us aren’t the right match for anyone, and no one is the right match for us.  I say here and now, I may very likely be a Solo Soul!

K