Monthly Archives: January 2014
Every year February comes along, and I quietly, okay, sometimes not so quietly dreaded a certain day in the month. It is a hard day for any single person, especially a single woman in her 30s. Honestly, I never really had much to celebrate on that day, and it always fills me with a bit of dread and sorrow. I know there is the love of family and friends to be celebrated on that day, and yes, that is lovely, but never really the same. I could do the whole single gals gathering and commiserate with other single women, but somehow I don’t want to be one of those women. It is funny, but I don’t think single men have those kind of gatherings on Valentine’s Day. Alas, I will let the day come and go this year, as it has many years before, and go on about my business as usual, leaving the hearts and flowers to others 😀
There is an expression that those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. I have to say that expression resonates with me. As easily as a person can sit back and observe and critique someone else’s life and choices, it has to be remembered that those judgments and/or critiques offered should come with a warning to the giver! It is simple to sit back as a third-party and have an opinion, but to be offended or get angry when the advice given isn’t taken well baffles me, especially when said advice isn’t asked for or sought out. I know as humans we make judgments, but to expect fellow sentient beings to just gladly take whatever observations are offered is naïve. Sometimes remember to expect that people might not take kindly to well-intended advice. The person might not be ready to accept the “truth”, there might be things as an outside observer is not aware of, sometimes people just don’t want advice. I think it is always good to be thoughtful when giving advice, and to remember that the hand you “feed” could bite back. So I try to think about that old expression, and stop to ask myself, am I ready to throw that stone, is my house is made of strong enough glass, should I really risk it?