I tend to be one of those people who like to solve problems, and I am quite stubborn about it. Whatever the problem, computer problem, life problem, work problem, I want a solution! The only real problem is I don’t think I tend to let others help me as often as I should, or even seek or take the help of others. I feel more than willing to ofter my help when I can, and in any way I can, but for some reason can’t take the same from others. If it’s some computer problem, I don’t want anyone else to deal with it, let me handle it. Life problems, I just don’t sometimes want to share, and if I do unload my problem, I still think I gotta take care of this. That fact probably makes dealing with things more difficult than it should be. Letting someone help, wanting someone’s help isn’t a sign of weakness, I know I shouldn’t see it as such, but it isn’t that easy for me to give in and seek out someone. It is just something I think I will have to learn to get over. It’s what having people in your life is for, to be there in good and bad, and to help when you need it.
Posted on 08/09/2012, in Deep Thoughts, Life Bits and tagged Life Bits. Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.
Too true. I cannot ask for help, but do moreso as I age than I ever did when I was younger. But I am the first to help someone in need if it is something I can help them well. Or I find someone who can. Sometimes we want their thoughts, but the hard part may be to actually give them a chance and listen. I think my issue comes when I hear what they have to say and it hits too close to home and stings, that I wonder why did I ask for help in the first place. For instance, I called my mom in Colorado to tell her my head hurt so bad I could barely move. Did I call because I wanted to go to the hospital or just have her listen to me cry about how bad it hurt? She of course, calls a family friend, who comes and takes me to the hospital. I highly doubt I wanted to go to the hospital, but I did, it was another bad trip to the ER and I went home with a new bill to pay. I guess where I was going with that is we can’t dictate the other persons response when we do open up, but that shouldn’t keep us from asking for help. It actually builds character for you when you can humble yourself to ask for help, but also it gives blessings to those who help us as well. Hang in there. We’re all human and fallable.
Thank you for commenting. I am seeing as I get older, like you say, asking for help does build character. I am finding it a bit less of a struggle, and so true that is just part of being human.
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