The questions rage, I will quiet them. Seems everyone else is need to know, and it gets into my head. I do not know how to answer, I will when the time is right. Until then I must settle in and see what happens.
Don’t Believe the Hype . . .
It has been pointed out to me that being a negative personality, or bringing your woes continually to someone can push them away. I admit, yes, this can prove true. However, there are people who seem in need of constant lauding in their life, and that grows equally draining and irksome. These people seem to need to have every accomplishment high-fived and celebrated. They keep a “yes crew” around them who can give them that needed praise at any given moment. That need for adulation grows weary, and friendship will not likely survive the moment the required praise fails to come, or their supposed “greatness” comes into question. So yes, while the woe is me person grows tiresome, the inflated egomaniac can suck all the oxygen out of the room.
K
Hating Valentine’s Day
Every year February comes along, and I quietly, okay, sometimes not so quietly dreaded a certain day in the month. It is a hard day for any single person, especially a single woman in her 30s. Honestly, I never really had much to celebrate on that day, and it always fills me with a bit of dread and sorrow. I know there is the love of family and friends to be celebrated on that day, and yes, that is lovely, but never really the same. I could do the whole single gals gathering and commiserate with other single women, but somehow I don’t want to be one of those women. It is funny, but I don’t think single men have those kind of gatherings on Valentine’s Day. Alas, I will let the day come and go this year, as it has many years before, and go on about my business as usual, leaving the hearts and flowers to others 😀
K
Glass Houses and Stones
There is an expression that those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. I have to say that expression resonates with me. As easily as a person can sit back and observe and critique someone else’s life and choices, it has to be remembered that those judgments and/or critiques offered should come with a warning to the giver! It is simple to sit back as a third-party and have an opinion, but to be offended or get angry when the advice given isn’t taken well baffles me, especially when said advice isn’t asked for or sought out. I know as humans we make judgments, but to expect fellow sentient beings to just gladly take whatever observations are offered is naïve. Sometimes remember to expect that people might not take kindly to well-intended advice. The person might not be ready to accept the “truth”, there might be things as an outside observer is not aware of, sometimes people just don’t want advice. I think it is always good to be thoughtful when giving advice, and to remember that the hand you “feed” could bite back. So I try to think about that old expression, and stop to ask myself, am I ready to throw that stone, is my house is made of strong enough glass, should I really risk it?
K
Now Hear This
I recently got hearing aids. Yes, while in my 30’s I have been diagnosed with a hearing loss and now must wear hearing aids as a result of irreversible nerve damage. It was a creeping problem for the most part. I had to set the volume higher, ask people to repeat, strain to try to keep up with conversations in certain situations, and now live with a constant ringing in my ears. Apparently I was the last to admit to myself there was an issue. I am glad I did something about it, because I was living in a state of stress and missing out on life in some respects. Having had a few days to adjust to the tiny buds in my ears, I am now aware of new sounds around me, and it certainly has made things interesting. The hum of the a/c, the copier rolling to life, the click clack of shoes on the hardwood floor, yes, those sounds seem like nothing, but for the first time in a long time I really notice them. I am not straining as much in conversations, and I am enjoying that I don’t focus on the ringing in my ears as much. It wasn’t a huge change in my life, but one that I think will be positive and beneficial in the long run.
K
What You Got Till It’s Gone . . .
There is a song, Big Yellow Taxi, with the line “don’t it always seem to go, that you don’t know what you got till it’s gone . . .” Well, I think there is some real truth to that. Often times we take for granted the moments and time we have, with loved ones, friends, etc. It is a strange thing how we let that happen and often fail to appreciate what we have right now. The constant yearning and search for the next great thing, the next better thing, doesn’t allow us to really appreciate or make the most of what is right there. It is sad that this is the case, why can’t we let go and say yes, this moment, this person, this is where I should be and enjoy it. I suppose it takes some effort to do that, not be in the constant search for the next, better, brighter, nicer, etc. A life lived like that seems to be missing something to me. It isn’t that we should stop striving and hoping, but I think opportunities and happiness are missed out on when you live in that constant “searching” state, and never take in the moment and those around you now. Just my thoughts :0)
K
What a Rush
It’ s been a wild few months for me, to say the least. I have sought out new adventures (at least trying to) as much as I can. In February I began hitting the karaoke circuit with unabashed passion. I find that it is great way to cut loose and have a little fun. There are a few go-to songs in my bag of tricks, but I like to trying new songs when I feel more adventurous. I’ve met a few new people through these new adventures as well, which is always a plus. It has given way to a few fun evenings. I went to a meet and greet date auction one Friday evening. I didn’t bid, or put myself up for auction, but I went and had some fun watching the festivities. I then decided to accept an offer to go tubing on the same day as I was heading out to celebrate my birthday with friends. I have to say, it was more than fun to just chill and float down the Rainbow River here in Florida. I did manage to get sunburned, but that was worth it in the end. My party was a blast, had a great time thanks to great friends at a local Irish Sports Bar/Pub. Next I headed out on a cruise and celebrated my actual birthday in Cozumel. The suite was decorated and there even was cake! I got home and had another mini adventure soon after in Daytona for a weekend getaway. I tried sushi for the first time last weekend, and lived to tell the tale. I am a convert and think I will be enjoying sushi again. Then today I got my picture in the local paper, which was kind of a funny and unexpected thing. It was all so random, I was sitting outside my office building reading at the nearby park, and a man comes up to me saying he is a photographer for the local paper and wanted a picture for a story on getting free Wi-Fi in the local parks. Well, I said yes and got to be in the paper, it was pretty funny. I am glad that despite the year starting out kind of rough, I have decided to make the most of this adventure that is life, what a rush!
K
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