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What You Got Till It’s Gone . . .
There is a song, Big Yellow Taxi, with the line “don’t it always seem to go, that you don’t know what you got till it’s gone . . .” Well, I think there is some real truth to that. Often times we take for granted the moments and time we have, with loved ones, friends, etc. It is a strange thing how we let that happen and often fail to appreciate what we have right now. The constant yearning and search for the next great thing, the next better thing, doesn’t allow us to really appreciate or make the most of what is right there. It is sad that this is the case, why can’t we let go and say yes, this moment, this person, this is where I should be and enjoy it. I suppose it takes some effort to do that, not be in the constant search for the next, better, brighter, nicer, etc. A life lived like that seems to be missing something to me. It isn’t that we should stop striving and hoping, but I think opportunities and happiness are missed out on when you live in that constant “searching” state, and never take in the moment and those around you now. Just my thoughts :0)
K
Sweet Dreams Are (Not) Made of This
I have a tendency to recall dreams on a fairly decent basis, not every detail, but I can recall the gist of the dream . Well, last night, I had two whoppers! I am quite aware of “this is only a dream,” but it still can rattle a perturbed mind. One would think that when you are walking through your living room and see a cobra, and it’s shedded skin, you would think now that’s bizarre! I live in Florida and snakes are common, but I’m not aware of how prevalent cobras actually are. While I’m awake snakes terrify me, so oddly enough it was terrifying in the dream to find a snake under a hallway table which then proceeded to slither near me. I of course woke myself up before much else happened. It appears that this “could” symbolize hypnotism in some relationship, which could be accurate after last weeks “drama.” My next bizarre nighttime theater was I was on a cruise ship, having come back from one about two weeks ago that makes sense; I was enjoying hanging around, I had left to explore the ship on my own, when all of a sudden we’re sinking! I was not able to get to my muster station and had to follow other people up this other set of stairs to another muster station while the water is rising. I got upset I hadn’t found the other people I was with and was nervous being in the wrong place and then I woke up. Again, I always like to see what these kind of things “mean” and see it means feeling overwhelmed and needing to let go of old ideas or beliefs. Interesting. Odd things to share, but writing helps me, and felt let it out :0) So I wonder what dreams I can have tonight!
K
Haters Gonna Hate
As the expression goes, haters gonna hate. Funny thing is I realize my worst critic; where the absolute harshest criticism comes from, is from me. I find that when it comes to a harsh critique, no one tops what I have to say. Feeling the need to judge myself, I analyze and scrutinize for no good reason, it just comes naturally. I have to think others are judging themselves as well, so they don’t really have time to judge me, and why do I bother worrying so much. Overcoming that mindset takes determination and some strong will for sure, I have been doing it for so many years. It is a negative process that doesn’t do any good in the long run. Judging ourselves turns in to a harmful process when we allow the negative and bad overwhelm and take center stage. Finding a new thought process and a new way to approach that impulse is key to finding a way out of that harmful self-critical mode. So, this hater isn’t gonna hate anymore, or at least try not to :0)
K
The Simple Life
A friend had shared a post with me a while back about getting back to basics essentially, and finding your happiness. I’ve wavered and debated about it for a while, and am deciding to reflect upon it here and now. I intend to get back to what I want to fulfill me in this life. I enjoy my time with family, friends, reading, blogging, and just digging in and enjoying simple days. Worrying about things I cannot change will always press down on me, I will always want to make sure I am doing it right, but I also have to enjoy what is simply right there for me now. Sometimes you have to embrace that simple pleasure and just go with it, follow it to its conclusion. Happiness and contentment are always there, if you just know where to look, and oddly enough sometimes you don’t have to look far. Get back to the simple life.
K
Patience My Dear
Patience is a virtue I am lacking. It’s not that I don’t know that things take time, that things must be worked towards, that instant gratification rarely happens, it’s just that I want to have the results now, the good or bad ending, I want it now! Even when I read a book I often skim the ending to know how things turned out, I want to know what my payoff will be for my time. The ending of a movie, sure, tell me, I don’t feel it spoils it! I always want to know what gifts the gifts are for my birthday or Christmas. I hate having to wait to give someone else a surprise, it drives me nuts. Surprises aren’t fun for me, so keeping me guessing won’t be fun and I hate holding in a surprise. I think more than anything, I don’t want to feel I’m wasting my time in an endeavor, so I want to get there quickly and efficiently. Anything that is worth doing is worth doing well. That rushed approach is probably no way to live life, but unfortunately it is one of my weaknesses. Yes, I admit it is a shortcoming I should probably try to overcome, but can I be patient enough, time will tell.
K
Signs, Signs, How to Read ‘Em
Reading signs is so important. They get you where you need to know on the road, and in life. When it comes to subtle sings of my fellow human, especially human males, I am at a loss. The difference between friendliness and true interest is beyond me, even after all my years. I like to think I observe, and I am aware there are people at ease with strangers, who just have a way of being open, friendly, and inviting. Then there are the people with the clear message to STAY AWAY! However, it is the want to get to know you more sign that is most boggling to me. I tend to not want to jump to that explanation, so I just let it pass me by. Clearly, there is an important reason to differentiate, but it is an ability that appears eludes me. It deserves some study and thought as a plan to address this deficiency in my arsenal of superpowers, this should be interesting ;0)
K
Try Again Tomorrow
Recently I heard someone suggest when feeling down because of a mistake or wrong step, to think about tomorrow and just try not to make that mistake again. She said the mistake was over and done, it couldn’t be undone, which is true. It is tomorrow you have to live for, not yesterday. The past can’t be undone, really it is best to live for the here and now, hoping for the future. I was surprised by who this advice came from, but I have found myself thinking it might not be all that bad of a mantra. So, I take this advice and hope to put it to some good practice from now on myself, to embrace what is coming and not what was . . .
K
Romance Novel Addiction
I wasn’t really a reader of the traditional “romance” novel until about two years ago. I picked up a novel that sounded cute, discovered it was romance, and was kinda hooked on the genre. I know that it does set up false expectation of how love and romance function in the real world. In real life it is a mix of timing, chemistry, and yes, hard work that make relationships and love last. The meet-cute is not likely to happen in real life. No adoring looks across a crowded room. No bonding over some silly situation. No instant heat and chemistry. No perfect Prince Charming to sweep a damsel off her feet. But hell if it isn’t a damn hoot to read. For the time while I am reading that story I get to have a little fun, keep a little of the faith, and just let go for a bit into a world of romantic possibilities. Sometimes it’s nice to step away from the world at hand and just have something a little happy and a little romantic to lose myself in, when the real world isn’t so romantic. I mix it up with more serious reading, but I find a good romantic story line hard to put down. I oooh and ahhh, laugh, and find myself taking what I like to call the “Reading Vacation,” and I am not ashamed in needing to take one every once in a while.
K
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